BACKGROUND.
I was told by my mother just when my firstborn turned three months old that when I was a child, playing has been my way of escaping her and socializing with our neighbors. I was never blessed with a brother or a sister (I'm the only begotten daughter of my parents), that is why having a moment each day to play with my cousins was my comfort zone.
I was told by my mother just when my firstborn turned three months old that when I was a child, playing has been my way of escaping her and socializing with our neighbors. I was never blessed with a brother or a sister (I'm the only begotten daughter of my parents), that is why having a moment each day to play with my cousins was my comfort zone.
Now that I am already a mother, I do realize that playing is an essential part of kids' learning and development. Through the book "What to Expect the First Year", I knew that the simple peek-a-boos, clapping of hands, jumperoo baby exercises and singing of itsy bitsy spiders with my kids do enhance their socialization skills aside from exercising their motor skills. Of course, being a mother of two also educated me that "playtime" for Echo (22 months old) is different from my little girl Army (4 months old). Echo now loves ball games, dancing games, shape sorting, horseback riding and all arcade kiddie rides.
My son also loves playing with other kids of course. I saw his need of socializing with toddlers like him when he was about 16 months old, just prior his operation (God Heals: Echo's Journey Towards Full Healing). I hate to admit it but before, Echo had a "mine" nuance when it comes to his toys. There was also a point where he became possessive with his stuffs. He loved having kids around him but what he did is that he doesn’t let other kids touch his things. They were just there watching him play. What my husband and I did is that we brought him to some neighbors' house who have babies and just let him play and interact with them and since I do belong to a mommy group (The Mommy Avenue), I make it a point that I bring him from time to time whenever we conduct EB in order for Echo to meet and greet new set of baby friends as well. From then on, we saw progress. Echo learned to share his own toys aside from gaining new friends.
Meanwhile, Army loves playing peek-a-boo and giggling games with her kuya (older brother). Surprisingly, at 22 months, Echo knows how to make her little sister chuckle. Army is now using her kuya's lamaze rattles and also loves having talks (as if her words are already straight) with us. I could not even fathom that she is a pre-emie baby.
In my perception, when we define the word "play", the approach should be holistic. It must also hit the important parts in a child's development which include motor skills, social skills, language skills and other intellectual skills such as ingenuity and problem solving skills. Toys also take part in our child's learning and development. On the other hand, not all toys are good to our kids. So as parents, we should also be heedful then on what toys to cater to our children.
My son also loves playing with other kids of course. I saw his need of socializing with toddlers like him when he was about 16 months old, just prior his operation (God Heals: Echo's Journey Towards Full Healing). I hate to admit it but before, Echo had a "mine" nuance when it comes to his toys. There was also a point where he became possessive with his stuffs. He loved having kids around him but what he did is that he doesn’t let other kids touch his things. They were just there watching him play. What my husband and I did is that we brought him to some neighbors' house who have babies and just let him play and interact with them and since I do belong to a mommy group (The Mommy Avenue), I make it a point that I bring him from time to time whenever we conduct EB in order for Echo to meet and greet new set of baby friends as well. From then on, we saw progress. Echo learned to share his own toys aside from gaining new friends.
Some of Echo's friends from The Mommy Avenue/Avenue for Mommies Online |
My kids Army and Echo <3 |